Why Gentle Parenting Fails, and How the Prophet ﷺ Raised Men

Who you become is decided largely by who you sit with. In this panel, three fathers and teachers speak honestly about the company that shaped them, the kind of love that raises children instead of spoiling them, and why so many of us have grown soft. It is warm, it is blunt, and it keeps returning to one idea. Real love, for your children and for your friends, has to ask something of you. In this video: - Why the people around you shape your character more than you realize - The Sunday school du'a that turned out to be Sayyid al-Istighfar - Corrective love, and how the Prophet ﷺ raised the sahabah - "I have four boys," and why there is no perfect example of parenting but the Prophet ﷺ - The coffee shop moment, and the call to raise sons who are rijal - The dua Fudail ibn Iyad made when nothing else reached his son - How to judge a friendship over years, not over one hurtful moment - Why simply showing up to the jama'ah slowly levels your character Ask yourself as you watch. Who is shaping you right now? Chapters 0:00 Intro: the company that shapes who you become 4:22 The father in law who mentored a generation 7:41 Sayyid al-Istighfar: the du'a that finally made sense 12:43 Corrective love: how the Prophet ﷺ raised the sahabah 14:41 There is no perfect parent 17:02 Why gentle parenting is poisonous parenting 19:28 We have gotten soft: raising sons to be rijal 23:43 When nothing works, make dua: the son of Fudail 28:48 What keeps you up at night? 33:38 Friendship for Allah, and the barakah of just showing up